Domestic violence is a term that has unfortunately become common in our society in present times as a result of abusive relationships.
According to National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse.
Actress, Mercy Aigbe has been enmeshed in the news in the last few weeks concerning her marriage and how she had over the years been battered by her husband. Just a few days ago, a beautiful South African lady was abused and burnt to death by a man reported to be her ex-boyfriend. This is not the first time and might not be the last if deliberate actions are not taken against this.
Stargist.com, has put together basic signs that would help you spot a potentially abusive partner.
1 Possessiveness: An abusive partner sees the victim as his/her property.
2 Extreme Jealousy: Acts jealous around your friends, family or co-workers.
3 Verbal Abuse: Says hurtful things to the other party.
4 Forced Sex: Disregards partners unwillingness to have sex or makes them to do things sexually they are not comfortable with.
5 Financial Control: In total control of both parties’ finances.
6 Blame Game: Blames the partner of cheating every other time & of any single thing that goes wrong.
7 Dictation: An abusive partner loves to dictate how the other party dresses, places they visit and even career choice.
8 Decision Making: Takes charge of all the decisions in the relationship.
9 Stalking: The abusive party wants to know where their partner is at every point & tends to stalk them at will.
10 Destructive: Quick to destroy their partner’s property.