Former US President Barack Obama, was said to have proposed to a woman he dated in the 80’s who rejected his proposal twice before he met and married his wife, Michelle Obama.
The woman is Sheila Miyoshi Jager who is of Dutch and Japanese descent.
According to the author of his latest biography, David Garrow, Obama met Jager in the mid-’80s when he was doing community organizing in Chicago.
Jager told the author in an interview that Obama had “a deep-seated need to be loved and admired.” Adding that in 1986 Obama asked her to marry him, but her parents were opposed because they thought she was too young to get married, so she turned him down, but they continued dating.
Then, Garrow says, Obama’s presidential ambitions became a centerpiece of their relationship, which caused a conflict between them because he worried that marrying a non-African-American wife would do him political damage.
Garrow says he “felt trapped between the woman he loved and the destiny he knew was his.”
Obama then went to Harvard Law School in 1988 and the relationship became strained but Jager says Obama again asked her to marry him before he left, but she was off on a research trip to Seoul and rejected his proposal, for the second time.